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Hi and welcome to Kandharammatrimony.coms MatchMakingTips


Our aim is to provide lots of free high quality matchmaking tips and advice to help people become more successful at finding their ideal life partner.


Single for a long time? Find out why ?
How Kandharammatrimony.com can work for you?
Profile Description what can I write about?
Your Profile Photo
Honesty the Best Policy


Single for a long time? Find out why.


If youve been single for a long time, it is time to analyze your attitude and have a reality check:


  • Expecting no one but Mr. or Ms. Right? As unfair as it may sound, people who find Mr. or Ms. Perfect in their lifetime are very very rare. Fairy tales do not happen in real life. So it is time for you to think practically and start looking for someone who is compatible with you and suits you the most.

  • Being intolerant to the slightest fault? While looking for a partner you cannot afford to keep on rejecting people because of the slightest of faults. Remember that you too are not perfect and it does not hurt to be a little open-minded and tolerant.

  • Is time the problem? In this fast moving world, it is difficult to get some you-time. But while you are on your hunt for your partner, it is vital to find some time out of your busy schedule to get to know more about your would-be spouse. This is applicable even after marriage if you would like to enjoy a peaceful and happy family life.

  • Being pessimistic? If you have been single for a long time, it is but natural that you feel a little pessimistic about the whole marriage business. For a relationship to work out, you have to shed your fears and insecurities and move forward with a positive frame of mind.

  • Being too pushy? When you find a person who might be the one, never rush them as it may make them uncomfortable and even scare them off. So take it easy, be yourself and hope for the best.

  • Too lazy to respond? When you receive messages from other members, be prompt in your replies. Good communication goes a long way in building a lasting relationship.

  • Too lazy to respond? When you receive messages from other members, be prompt in your replies. Good communication goes a long way in building a lasting relationship.

  • Cant keep away your ex from conversation? It is tough when you have been out of a bad relationship and are trying your luck a second time. In such a case, keep in mind that it is not a good idea to think or talk too much about your ex as it may give the impression that you are not yet ready to move on.
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How Kandharammatrimony.com can work for you?

Once upon a time the search for the ideal partner used to be tedious and time-consuming; now with the advent of online matchmaking services it has become much easier and convenient. With Kandharammatrimony.com you will be connected to a large network of people brought together by the same goal. Coupled with our superior services and a little enthusiasm from your side, Kandharammatrimony.com can work wonders for you.

Being happily married is every persons dream. Life would not be complete without having the ideal person to share it with. By registering with us you are taking one step closer to finding the love of your life. Here are some tips to get maximum benefits from Kandharammatrimony.com:


  • While filling out the registration form, be sure to submit accurate information.
  • It is advisable to choose a user name that is NOT related to your real name or e-mail address in the interest of Anonymity.
  • It is very important to spend some time to complete your profile as it will directly influence the number of responses. Be honest, be frank and give attention to details. Honesty gets more results.
  • Be sure to mention all that you are looking for in your partner, as well as those that you would not like.
  • Use of abusive or offensive language in your profile or while communicating with a member is a definite no-no.
  • Adding a photograph to your profile will grab more attention.
  • After registering, be sure to login regularly.
  • When you get a message from a member, respond promptly.
  • Do not hesitate to contact when you find someone matching your interests.
  • Always be polite and considerate while chatting online or conversing via phone.
  • If you find anything that needs clarification in a profile, ask them straight away.
  • Maintaining a positive attitude and an open mind really helps.
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My Profile Description What can I write about?

Reality check... Men like things short and sweet. We tend to have relatively short attention spans. Women on the other hand.... Love details! Look weve all listened to women talking on the phone, swapping life stories in absolute detail. They love it, crave it, need it, adore it. So give them material! You are trying to paint them a picture of your life, which you cant do that in 2 paragraphs. So its important to try and write a profile that is detailed enough to tell them about you, but short enough to leave them yearning for more.


The Magic Number

For an ideal profile it has to be between 350 - 450 quality words, with approximately 300 words about yourself and another 150 words depicting the kind of person you are seeking. Longer than this, your profile will appear bragging and cause information overload on the potential matches. Shorter than this, it doesnt reveal enough about yourself and make you appear indifferent.

You can then choose several topics ranging from:

  1. Do you have hobbies?
  2. What do you enjoy doing? What brings joy to your life?
  3. Do you have a close relationship with your extended family?
  4. What do you value most in your life?
  5. Also, people are intrigued by details.
  6. What are your favorite songs?
  7. What is your favorite form of art?
  8. What is your favorite thing to do on a Saturday night when you are all by yourself?
  9. What is your favorite thing to do on your wedding?
  10. Talk about your social life.

By doing this, you give people a snap-shot of who you are, what makes you happy and what is most important to you. Since the average reader tends to scan at first, its vitally important they dont become overall intimidated or bored with big blocks of text. Therefore by giving the various topics about 4-6 good sentences, will then usually form the basis of a very entertaining story to illustrate you. Remember, you want to hit on at least 5 topics that she cares about. Each one needs to be illustrated in depth using examples or stories (not just adjectives!) This takes time and a bit of thought, but it will be well worth it.


Be Concise

On a final note remember youre betting off saying what you want to say in about half the space that we give you to say it. You dont have to tell your life story, just the bullet points. Theres time to tell more once youve caught someones attention. For now you must come across as appealing enough to get that e-mail. Also you dont have to reinvent the wheel when you are writing essays. If youre really struggling to find suitable material for your profile, then simply browse ads written by other members of the same matchmaking service to give you some good ideas. Of course copying the ads word for word would be silly, you simply want to write an essays that apply uniquely to you.

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Photo Impressions


We all know the old saying, "A picture says a thousand words.

Your photo isnt merely meant to help people judge how attractive you are. Your profile photo really is a sneak peek into your personality. The way you smile, the types of photos you choose, where your photos were taken. . .all of these things give potential matches a glimpse into your true personality. If someone visits your profile and finds no photo there, they feel as though they only know you halfway. With that in mind, how you can hope to hold someones attention when there are thousands of other matches out there who will reveal their true selves, photos and all?

There are no positive aspects to not having a profile photo and this is unlikely to find you a match. Our site allows you to hide your photo and only share it with people you accept as your matches.

Posting a profile picture also helps you ensure that whomever you contact will be comfortable interacting with you. When someone has posted a few photos of herself online, getting a message from a faceless person will give her the heebie-jeebies. Shes put herself out there; its not fair to ask her to communicate with a masked entity.


How many pictures?

It's best to have more than one picture. Two is enough, eight is too many. At least one of them should show your face close up. Women should have at least three photos - one of your face close-ups, one of your entire bodies, and one something of in-between. Do not use more than one professional glamour photo - most men know that glam shots airbrush a lot out, and it makes them think that you are hiding something if all your photos are glam shots!

So in nutshell we would strongly recommend not spending much time with profiles without photos. Most probably it will not be worth your time and effort. Matchmaking experts dont recommend responding to anyone who refuses to post or send a photo.

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Is Honesty The Best Policy?


The single most important thing of anything you could ever do when it comes to creating your online matchmaking profile is to be honest. Telling porkies, white lies, massage the truth and exaggerating on your profile is just like lying on your CV. You know it could improve your chances, but youll look like a complete loser if you get sprung.

Your profile is designed to help women form an opinion about you. Written correctly, your profile will entice her to contact you immediately. Women re-read profiles over and over again because they want to get to know who you are and they want to get excited about meeting you. The more you put in your profile that expresses your personality, the easier it is for a woman to decide to email you because she'll have a better idea of what to talk about with you. It's almost like she is looking to see if you're as real as you appear to be. So make sure everything you write in your profile is totally representative of who you are right now in your life.


Honesty gets more results

In creating a picture of yourself and in preparing to write your profile, its human nature to want to present yourself in the most flattering way, but at the same time its not your duty to leave an absurdly inaccurate cyber footprint of yourself. Besides, the beauty of online matchmaking is the fact that it opens up a whole world of possibilities when it comes to finding a potential cyber-suitor and being honest with your portfolio will able you to find someone that is attracted to you for who you really are.

The thing s you leave out or conveniently forget to mention are part of the process. For example, you may be a smoker, but you know that will limit who responds to your profile. Thats why this isnt as easy as it sounds. The little things that you choose to leave out may end up being deal-breakers. And even the truths you choose to put in, that we encourage you to put in, may also trouble. You may like to have a glass of wine each night with dinner. When you fill in your form, you get to the drinks question, and youre faced with a decision: You drink everyday but you really arent a drinker. How do you answer such a question in a form that only gives you the choices of never, socially, or regularly, and no space to explain?

Now if you answer regularly, many people may think youre a heavy drinker, but youre not. The best policy is to just put down the facts, or very close to the facts.


Be proud of your physicality

As a short man or heavy woman, you might feel compelled to add a few inches or take off a few pounds and before you do, think about this... If you're a short man and a woman is attracted to that, you're set. And if you're a heavy woman and a man is attracted to heavy women then you're also set. A potential disaster will be brewing if you lie about your height (or weight) because eventually you'll have to deal with the stress of that first meeting, yep, they'll notice and you will lose major cool points and there's also the possibility that you'll lose their trust too.

One of the most tricky issues can be weight, and if youre an ample body size, you need to be honest about it. Not only will it disappoint them when they meet you if youve lied, but your own confidence will plummet if you see disappointment on their face or hear it in their voice. Use the Honest Understatement. Say something like Im large / ample / voluptuous / curvy, etc. You dont need to tell them your exact size, and if they need to ask it probably isnt a successful match anyway.

For those things we cannot change such as age and height, learn to accept these and incorporate the positive aspects into your self-image. For example, I am tall and not petite and these things about me cannot he changed; if someone likes shorter petite women, I may not be their match. So be it, there are many men who like tall women, thank goodness!

Use subtle filters

Talk about your likes and dislikes, especially if it's something in a mate that you absolutely could not live with. This could be his/her smoking habits, getting totally coma drunk every weekend or really anything else that might "rub you the wrong way" (hmmm, or the right way). If you do not like something it's perfectly fine to mention it as this will "weed out" all the people that would end up wasting your (and their) time.

Likewise and probably more important to ensure your compatibility is to mention the things that you like to do, you know... your hobbies, favorite foods, taste in music. Nope, you don't have to reveal your entire life and personality online as a little mystery is always a good thing. Mentioning the type of relationship you seek will also align you to a similar person. Don't be afraid to say this.


Security and safety

One last thing our website have what's called a double-blind email system that ensures your true identity is protected and safe up until that point where you decide to reveal it by yourself.Go Top